I do. And so do you. The first-person format is because I want each of you to read this as an affirmation. Most of us are pretty darned comfortable saying "you deserve nice things"...how often do we say "I deserve nice things"? Let's talk about that, and then try an experiment over the weekend.
When you're having a day at home, do you ever put on that huge baggy tee? Maybe it has a small moth hole, or a stain, but well, it fits, and you're not going out anywhere (except maybe the corner store where no one you know shops). You look at another shirt that fits a bit better and doesn't have any stains and decide not to wear it, because you don't want to get it stained.
Shoes - the old running shoes, of course. You might end up doing some yardwork. When were they last washed? Ever?
Let's not even get started on food. Long ago, I decided to eat the crusts from the five peanut butter and jelly sandwiches my kids wanted, and it was...adequate. To this day, I go beyond "easy" and look for "most useful" - leftovers, food on the cusp of expiring...does any of this sound familiar?
If this resonates, you may also have felt a bit of shame when hearing about women who choose attractive clothing, and do their hair and makeup each morning for themselves. Let me be clear on this point: there is nothing wrong with those women, and there is nothing wrong with you for not being among them. What I am proposing is that you deserve better than the dregs, the leftovers, the things waiting to be repurposed into rags or given to charity.
An Experiment for This Weekend
Put on the shirt that doesn't have holes or stains. Wear the pants that aren't ready for a housepainting project. Or put on a skirt or dress. You can do errands and housework in those too. Nothing too fancy - I'm not proposing we don pearls and heels for cleaning house (if you do, this is definitely NOT an article for you!). Just get that little bit outside your comfort zone, and put on casual clothes that are in good condition and fit you. If you're mucking about outside, wear your nifty Sloggers boots instead of those old ratty sneaks.
I'll do this too, and will come back to this next week.